F A T I G U E | How to overcome it

fatigue. numero uno

Life is difficult when you have fatigue for company. Forgive me for my silence, I’ve been tired.

Issues of mental health, self-love and general wellbeing seem to be having quite a moment right now and rightly so. It’s so easy to get bogged up in the mundanities of life and its routines and that you forget to check in with yourself. An apple a day may keep the doctor away but time out every so often, keeps your mind sane and your body game.

My parents often like to remind that ‘the same people you are breaking your back to work for or help will have no problem replacing you should something happen.’ Your body on the other hand won’t find a replacement quite so easily. God forbid you be the cause of your bodies redundancy.

Take care of yourself. Whatever is taking your time – acknowledge you need to take a break. Hey denial is real and it is better for you to come to that realisation yourself without the aid of a life threatening illness.

Less is more, focus your mind on fewer things and you’ll have more energy to accomplish a lot more. Quality over quantity.

Read – more than 140 characters. There is nothing more refreshing and stimulating than a good read. Finding a quiet space to accompany decent literature contributes to vocabulary expansion, better writing (tweets) and doubles as free entertainment.  It improves your memory and above all helps focus your mind by losing it in another world.

Eating, well that is. KFC has never been the poster boy for healthy living. Sausages rolls, donuts and wagon wheels (there’s a blast from the past) with a side plate of crisps isn’t going to motivate your body to do better. Colourful plates make for a more creative and well fuelled mind.

Hydrate. Swap that morning coffee for water with lemon or try different fruit options to add flavour. We often mistake hunger for thirst and keeping well hydrated does wonders to clear the mind, skin and any tiredness.

Exercise. No actually exercise, don’t just stroll on the treadmill for a half hour looking at your phone. Decide ahead of time what you want to do and it’ll be easier to stick to it once you are there.

Socialise. That energy you’ve been trying to regain, spend it with your nearest and dearest. Being around those that uplift you and make you laugh – like really laugh – with sound. Yeah do that.

Sleep. Oh my goodness where art thou. The power of a goodnight’s sleep. I love to dabble in a long sleep shift but I can find 101 things to do before getting there. Give your body time to recover and repair, rest is not optional if you want to function well – long term at least. Get some sleep!

These are things we all know to do but can struggle to remain consistent with. Sometimes life just happens and it can distract you from one thing we should always prioritise, our health. Hopefully this serves as a gentle but much needed reminder for many of you as it was desperately needed for myself.

A N X I E T Y

I have never been a fearful, anxious or apprehensive person. But sometimes situations can occur – life happens and you may find yourself in an environment that is ripe for such emotion to grow.

“Be anxious for nothing but in everything by prayer and supplication; with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God” – “and the peace of God which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4: 6-8

Anxiety is acknowledged in the word. An acknowledgement that it comes but when it does you shouldn’t entertain it.

“Be anxious for nothing” is a command not a request. The reality of abiding by this however is much harder . Grace is needed to remember that whatever the situation be always remember it may be difficult for you but it is not for God.

Being anxious implies that you have no confidence in Gods ability and strength – and that your issue is greater/ above the need to obey God’s word, to trust in Him wholeheartedly – without reservation.

Where anxiety has opportunity to grow – God provides peace that is beyond our understanding in order to deal and cope with that situation.

It’s a kind of peace that makes no sense to the human mind – because it is peace that God, who created the heavens and the earth, has total control over what ever is happening.

You may not be able to see the light at the end of the tunnel just yet. But rest in the knowledge that it is coming.

How to stay positive | the Job hunt

Lately I have had a lot of questions on life post grad and staying motivated doing the daily grind.  As it’s a new year we will start of with a gentle reminder:

If your career is not something you prioritise you’ll find yourself looking like stagnant water.

Let’s be real. Life after graduating can be very hard. Life in general is blooming hard. When you’ve gone through the typical schooling system, primary to high school, college/sixth form then university. It is easy to measure where you are and how you have progressed – up until you leave and find yourselves and your peers with very different schedules and educational/ vocational priorities.

Usually the difficulty also comes from dealing with the constant questions and expectation from yourself and others – comparison to others being the biggest thief of joy. I cannot tell you how many times one aunty or random uncle would ask and I’m sure we’ve all heard these at some point: still at the same place? Is it a graduate role/ good wage? Don’t stay there too long? Is it what you studied? Why isn’t it in what you studied? Did the wrong degree huh? Some people are rude y’all!

Remember whether it’s the job you want or one that simply pays the bills – you work hard to earn an honest living and that is something to respect. There is nothing wrong with having a job while you’re waiting on your job either!

That said, always be proactive with your time! Especially if you aren’t working employers will ask what you did with yourself during those breaks. Whether it was a short course you took, or a self initiated project you completed. Have something productive to say. This also helps to keep yourself motivated knowing you are always working on something. Don’t let your skills become dormant.

Be disciplined enough to create a schedule for yourself,

Actively apply for jobs. Often people will say they can’t find anything when they have looked a handful of sites and they get bored. Honey the bank does not tire of reminding you what your account balance is. Do not be disheartened easily. speaking to people is usually the best way to find out who is hiring and what you need to do.

If you are at work – manage your diary and keep up with meetings/ interviews.  Nothing more painful than missing an opportunity because you didn’t check your emails.

Be persistent keep doing your research and continue to present yourself well. You are the best person positioned to sell yourself. I have lost count of the number of applications I made, phone calls that were had, interviews that were attended. But if you keep at it the right door will open for you.

I went from constantly being told no, not yet, and in some cases nothing at all; to having three job offers all at management level positions. And that didn’t happen by me sitting on my hands at home. And don’t get me wrong I’m extremely far from saying that I’ve made it – but I’m making my way.

Keep moving or it will feel like you’re moving backwards. And as we move closer to our goals let’s bring each other up, continue to motivate and seek inspiration. This leads to my next point.

Do not be afraid to ask. Ask others what they did to get to where they are. I used to hate asking questions for fear of feeling like you are pestering someone. But – if you don’t ask you don’t get. People prefer those that show too much interest than none at all. If they sense your hunger and drive they are more likely to help you or put you in touch with someone who can. (That said, ask but keep it relevant).

Patience is a difficult teacher but it rewards those who learn the art, very well. There’s nothing wrong with turning down positions that aren’t quite right. Don’t jump onto any and every opportunity. Know your worth. As hard as it is – especially if you have been waiting for a long time. You don’t want to jump into something only to jump out a month later in a worse position than before.

I know this is easier said than done but don’t worry God always has something for you.

Keep going, this year is yours to smash!

Why you should travel | 2018

I recently went to Romania for a short break and after reflecting on the places we went to and the things we saw. I came to the obvious conclusion that everyone should travel. Now while I still have many more countries to visit this last place definitely opened my eyes to a different style of living. If you get the opportunity to travel I strongly encourage you to and here’s a list to why

Character and confidence 

Survival of the fittest. If ever there was a way to see how strong you really are, not just physically but mentally and socially – travel. Being able to thrive in new environments requires a different kind of confidence. It’s a great way to learn how to socialise with new people especially where language is a barrier. It teaches you how tolerant/ intolerant you are of others and vice versa which is a great opportunity for growth and understanding. Which leads me to the next point.

Learn a new language

I’ve always been taught – the best way to learn a new language is to surround yourself with those who speak it.  Extra brownie points if you actually visit the country of interest. Being in a different location forces you to learn phrases not only to help you get around but to also get to know the people around you. You’ll be surprised how much people appreciate it when you at least try to speak in their language and not just assume everyone speaks in English. You’ll also find that if you do – strangers are more willing to help than not.

Peace of mind

We are often surrounded with so much noise and distraction with the pressures and stresses from work, family or friends. It can be very easy to get lost in everything and forget the importance of savouring a few moments to yourself. Just to clear your mind, re-calibrate and refocus on what you are doing. Being in a different space really helps – it doesn’t even have to be a different country – but a new environment in unknown land has a calming effect on the mind. Bonus points if you put away your phones disconnecting in order to reconnect. It really is refreshing.

Expand your horizon

A lot of miss communication happens because of a lack of understanding and ignorance. Be it culture, background or general life experience. Being in a new environment not only exposes you to different ways of living. But often is a great reminder to how blessed you are back at home. It’s a blessing to be able to walk in someone else’s shoes and see life from their perspective – no matter how short the trip. It also opens you up to different opportunities you may not have  been privy to before.

Learn to be present

Being in unfamiliar territory and foreign grounds has a way of commanding your attention – forcing you to be present in the moment. Not just for your own security but to enjoy the new sounds, culture and lifestyle in front of you. There are so many breath taking views to be found – great source for inspiration.

Experiencing new foods!

Save the best for last! If ever there is a reason for me to go somewhere – this would be it. I don’t mind (within reason) where you take me. But if food will be there – so will I. Travelling is a great way to learn and expose yourself to new culinary skills and taste’s. A way to learn what you definitely don’t like and what you have been missing the entire time. If you are able to, ask the locals for their recipes – it’s the best kind of souvenir to take home.

KidsOut “Trolley Dash”

KidsOut is a charity who give disadvantaged children positive experiences to support them becoming future members of our society and workforce.

Last week I had the pleasure and opportunity to be involved in one of their annual “TrolleyDash” events held at the London Olympia exhibition centre. This is part of the British Toy and Hobby Association Toy Fair. I went along with a few other volunteers from Enterprise.

The idea behind the trolley dash is to collect as many toys as possible donated by the exhibitors. The toy box concept started in 2008 and this year over four thousand toys were collected and are now being prepared for distribution to refugee homes around the UK – such a great result.

Each year as many as 20,000 children flee domestic abuse to seek sanctuary in refuge. Typically leaving home with only the clothes on their back, these children have experienced physical, emotional, and even sexual abuse and arrive at refuge with nothing. Having escaped the abuse for the safety of a refuge for anywhere between 6-12 months, roughly 4,000 of these children and their mothers are then relocated to a new home to start again.

 

Moving into a new community can be particularly tough for children, especially when they have already left their school, friends and possessions behind. With the mothers’ attention and resources typically focused on acquiring basic necessities for the new home, purchasing toys and going on Fun Days out are often way down the list. To ease the anxiety of moving, KidsOut sends each child their very own box of toys, welcoming them to their new lives.

 

For more info or if you would like to get involved visit:

http://www.kidsout.org.uk/toy-fair-2017/ 

1 2 L E S S O N S | 2017

People will always say you are too young if you are younger than them

We are just over halfway through the month now and I’ve already heard rumours that some of you are already ready to restart the year. The “new year new me” adrenaline tends to start burning out around this time if you’ve hit the ground running without the necessary preparation. It’s always good to reflect on what we’ve learnt as a reminder of what we have gone through and where we want to go. So with that said, here are a few nuggets 2017 left me with:

  • You cannot deal with a problem you refuse to recognise
  • Tell your business to people who will help you pray about your business
  • To people who say things like ‘I pray God blesses you with twins’ – Don’t wish things for people that you aren’t ready to help them out with
  • You don’t have to explain yourself; you out grow people and that is okay
  • If people see you as ‘the same person’ – have you really grown? Change is good and beneficial for development
  • After school/ university you realise how many people you were friends with out of convenience
  • ‘Most people are hungry but won’t cook’ – it is no one else’s responsibility to make sure you become a success
  • You cannot love God and dishonour your temple (body)
  • ‘Lips that can wake a dead corpse and then nag it back to death again’ – know when to speak and when to be silent. The wisest people don’t say a lot
  • Christ is your driving wheel – not your spare wheel
  • There are some things that don’t need prayer – they just need discipline